Be positive, my ass!

Just put on your ugly yoga pants, with a disgusting green smoothie in hand and close your eyes! Now imagine yourself in a beautiful house, with a handsome partner or sexy wife, the dog, the car, the kids. Imagine the corner office, the Nobel prize, the Oscar, the gold medal and a very thick wallet. Breathe in, smile, breathe out. Do this for years, at least for five minutes every day.

Now open your eyes! What do you see? Exactly! Nothing…

You are still in your ugly yoga pants, now too small for your fat ass, downward facing sad dog, contemplating the cracks on the bottom of the barrel. Yes, yes, that is right, there is always something below!

You did everything the self-development books told you to.

You ingested all the canned and instant advice, force-fed to you by society

They told you to "just move forward!" - so you swept your problems under the carpet

They told you to "walk tall!" - so you walked over others

They told you to "believe in yourself!" - so you started to believe you are better than everyone else

They told you to "stay strong" - so you swallowed your pain

They told you to "let it go!" - so you left your conflicts unspoken

They told you to "stay positive" - so you simply forgot you're human..

Congratulations, you faked it...until you failed it!

But it is time to get real, my friend!

So straighten up to that 'mountain pose', wipe off the fake instagram smile, gear up with a mask and put on a pair of boots. The path to a better life, a better you is sometimes muddy with tears and stinks of sweat.

Finish that smoothie, 'cause you will need both hands for this...you will slip, fall, roll and crawl. But know that you will be able to stand up again.

"Move forward!"

Take off the blindfold and let your eyes adjust to the light of reality. You will start to see all the mirrors held up by others on the way. Keep your head up and look into all of them!

"Walk tall!"

The reflection will be scary, ugly, beautiful and sometimes surprising. I can tell you it will not be always photogenic. But it will be real for once. #nofilter.

By only seeing the full picture you will be able to grow.

"Believe in yourself!"

Take a deep breath and bite down on something. This is going to hurt!

No cheating! No painkillers allowed, you will have to feel it!

"Stay strong!"

On your knees in the mud, you will have to finally accept that you are a flawed human being. A vulnerable and complex creature, entitled to be sad, tired, angry, disappointed. Entitled to be free, to be loved. So cry, shout, rage against the wind. Feel the refreshing moist of truth on your face. Smile!

"Let it go!"

For only by feeling the pain sometimes you will be able to understand where it is coming from. So you can finally treat it the right way. Don't run from it, don't hide it or be ashamed of it.

"Stay positive" My ass! Dare to be Human instead. A real, a better one at that! You will see, it is way harder...

...and the only way to become a better person than you were yesterday.

Namaste!

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